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Success is a Personal Responsibility


“He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else.” – Benjamin Franklin


If you are already an adult, the life which you walk in at the moment is the culmination result of all of your choices and actions in the past. You cannot go away from the fact that you are the one who is the most responsible of the condition of your life, whether it is a life condition at the moment which you actually wanted or not.

The person who never takes the responsibility of his/her bad condition of life is most likely to never change its course of the condition.

We, as a human, seem to naturally have a bias in regards to the condition of our present time. If the life which we go through right now is a good life, most of us will probably think that it is mostly the result of our own work. But if it is a bad life which we are having now, we are inclined towards blaming other people or other external factor who affect our life miserably and so, it seems like the life will be better if it is not just because of this person’s doing or it is not because that factor happens on which we do not have any control of.

Well guess what? We should and must take responsibility of the bad condition too and it is because the more we blame external factors as the main cause of our life, the more it is that we are never going to come out from that and it is unlikely that the condition can be turned for better.

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Let’s take an example of a man who probably has it rather rough in his life. He has divorced from the woman who he loves so much and has little to no money is in his bank account at the moment. He really blames his divorce on his wife because the wife for being in love with someone else during their marriage and he blames his state of no money on his employees who steer the company he founded into bankruptcy as a result of a string of bad execution from the business decisions which he made.

I think this thinking is actually one of the worst thing that he can have on his condition at the moment.

Why? Because by continuing to blame someone or something else for the bad condition in his finance and love condition at the moment, absolving himself of the blame, this will make him less likely to think and believe that he can change the situation with his own action.

He will be less likely to try to find another woman to marry if he thinks that he is in trauma and think that he cannot make a woman to not having an affair with another guy and he will have no try of starting a new business which will have its own employees again because of his mistrust of another person working for him based on his thinking of previous business experience.

How about putting it in another way? If he thinks that his divorce is because, probably, he does not give enough time for his wife and his financial condition at the moment is because he does not give enough attention to evaluate what his employees have already done in terms of the execution from the business decisions he make or he suspects that he does not give the best decision to be run by his employees, he can have the belief that he can fix it mostly by himself by trying to allocate more time to spend with the next woman that he choose to be for the rest of his life for his future love condition, and he can learn more about how to supervise his employees or try to practice more in terms of leadership and management, while evaluating his decision making, and probably consulting to some expert or mentor about business decisions.

The most important thing is that if he believes it was himself who is the most responsible for the failures that happen to him, he can choose to improve and fix himself to be capable to change the failure condition to success in the near future. If it is the belief is the bad condition is because of external factor that he cannot control, then he most probably never try to be in better condition again because there is nothing that he believes he can do about it.

So after you accept the responsibility of your failure, you can have something to do, something to learn from it, and try again so it can be a success next time.

This is, I believe, why a person’s mindset should be that whatever happens to that person is a personal responsibility, whatever condition that person is in is that person’s responsibility. He/she can have the power to change it if that is the case.

Because “this failure is because of something that I cannot control” is just not good enough belief for us to achieve the success that we want. Success is something which we, ourselves, must put a lot of effort in in its direction to achieve it. Only by believing in ourselves on the ability to achieve it, accepting that sometimes we can have a mistake and fail, then choose to put the effort in again to make the best case that the failure will not happen again in the future, go forward again towards achieving it, then we can make sure that success is something that we deserve to have, that it is our right to get it because of our effort and accountability.

Thus, please don’t be afraid to fail, don’t be afraid to take any responsibility of the situation. Get yourself back up, believe that success is your own and yours only personal responsibility, and move forward again with the belief and your own effort to achieve it, which is the success that you have the desire of.


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